Larger than Likes: Parenting

Big Idea: Our culture stokes the fires of insecurity. As long as we are comparing ourselves to the entire social world, it is impossible to feel like you are doing enough. As parents, we fall so easily into the trap that we don’t have the “picture” perfect family. When you get invited into an Israeli home today, you are welcomed into the boligon…the mess of life. There is a freedom that comes with the acknowledgement that while my boligon is going to look different from yours, we both have boligon. We all have broken relationships, with family members, neighbors and friends. We have financial issues, unspoken drama, the child who won’t return our calls, we struggle to balance the bills with family time – all of it is our boligon. So, how do we begin to process and handle the complicated messiness of life (aka the boligon)? Scripture calls us to reorient ourselves around values rather than reacting to unrealistic cultural and social expectations. Whether you are a parent or not, the values we set up for ourselves, in terms of what drives us, will be the patterns we set up for our families.

Key Verses: Deuteronomy 6:4-7; Colossians 3:1-4:2.

Sharing Life:

  • What stood out to you in this weekend’s message?
  • Take a moment to share what your household was like growing up? How has it impacted your life?
    • If you are a parent, how has that impacted how you parent?
    • If you are not a parent, how has your relationship with your parents been affected?
  • How has the culture influenced/shaped your view of family? Risk some vulnerability – how has comparison impacted your life?

Opening Scripture:

  • Read: Colossians 3:1-17
    • Circle one word that stand out in verse 12-17.
    • How could Paul’s words be applied to a household (your household can also include your community group, roommates, etc.)? What difference could it make in your personal life and in the lives of the people around you?
  • Read: Deuteronomy 6:4-7. In one of the most famous passages in Scripture, God commands us to integrate our faith into every area of our lives – where we live, work and play.
    • How do you cultivate faith where you live, work or play?
    • Take a moment to consider something you can try over the next week to incorporate an aspect of your faith into one area of your life, share it with your group.

Praying Together:

  • How can we support you with prayer this week?
  • Use this opportunity to pray for one another.